For people in the United States

If you are over the age of 18 and you do not have a good relationship with your parents (especially if you're gay, trans, queer, etc and your family doesn't support you). I want you to go to this site really quick.

Basically advanced directive is assigning who is allowed to make medical decisions for you in three event you are unable to talk or otherwise unable to make decisions for yourself (such as a coma).

So if you're no contact with you family and now living with your partner whom you're not married to? Maybe you'll want to put that your partner is the one that can make medical decisions for you.

If your family always gaslit you about your allergies or health issues? Maybe you might want to put your found family in there to make medical decisions for you.

If for ANY REASON you do not trust your family to make medical decisions for you in the event that you can't, and you prefer someone else be making medical decisions for you, please fill out this form.

And whomever you name as responsible for your health in the event that you can't make medical decisions should have a copy of this form in a secure location after its filed so they can wave it around when they're trying to show doctors that they're the one that's legally allowed to make the decisions.

(This form is also good for listing out decisions that would be hard for your family to make like how long you want to be in a coma, when to pull the plug if you're in a vegetative state, etc. Especially if you're concerned about medical bills.)

-fae

The moment I hear someone accuse a disabled person of faking it, I lose all respect I previously had for them. I have absolutely zero tolerance for fakeclaimers.

People have passed out on buses after being denied seats, because people thought they were faking it. People in excruciating pain have been turned away from hospitals, because people thought they were faking it. People have been publicly shamed both online and in person for their disabilities, because people thought they were faking it. People have lost their jobs after being denied accomodations, because people thought they were faking it. And I'm partially talking from my own personal experiences. I've been yelled at for having meltdowns at school after being told I wasn't allowed to wear ear plugs, because people thought I was faking it. These aren't hypothetical situations. Lots and lots of real disabled people have suffered for the entertainment of fakeclaimers.

The harm from fakeclaiming real disabled people is much, much worse than the harm from taking the few fakers there are seriously. I would rather help a hundred disabled people when one person among them is actually faking it than fakeclaim a hundred fakers when one person among them is actually disabled.

Yes, there are people who fake disabilities, and yes, that's awful and harmful. But accusing people of faking it has never done anything good for anyone, while it has harmed a lot of disabled people who needed support but were ridiculed instead. There is no net positive to fakeclaiming. All it does is serve to stigmatize, mock, and encourage the neglect of disabled people. It's sickening.

I mean this all the time. Even if they do something you assumed they shouldn't be able to do (part-time AAC users, ambulatory wheelchair users, and other people whose disabilities aren't constantly visible exist). Even if you think their accommodations are excessive or unnecessary. Even if you think they have "too many" conditions. Even if it's DID or schizophrenia or any other disability that you're uncomfy acknowledging. Even if they have dyed hair or neopronouns or anything else you've decided is "attention-seeking behavior."

The moment I hear the phrase, "they're probably faking it," leave your lips, I know not to trust you. Because you want disabled people to earn their rights, their support, their ability to live, by first meeting your arbitrary standards for what disabled people must look like.

Hey wanna be a better ally to people with delusions, mania, dissociative disorders and other disorders that effect your view on reality? Heres a simple tip! STOP TAKING PICTURES OF OUR SHIT AND REPOSTING IT

See a car around town with funny writing about the world ending soon or the government injecting people with microchips? NOT YOUR PROBLEM

See a post online written in a frantic cadence where someones providing their unhinged perspective on something relatively mundane? SCROLL RIGHT ON BY

See a dirty man in public holding a weird sign and talking about things that dont make sense? GIVE HIM A BOTTLE OF WATER MAYBE BUT DONT YOU DARE TAKE A FUCKING PICTURE

See any of the things described above posted for shock value and laughs? CALL IT OUT OR IGNORE IT

See something like the above but the person in question has politics you disagree with? YOUD STILL BE A CUNT IF YOU TOOK A PICTURE

Ive been that psychotic person before. Ive been screencapped without my knowledge by people who wanted to get a laugh out of my (unhinged) beliefs. This did absurd amounts of damage, got me harrassed, made me paranoid.

i do think therapy recommenders on here wildly irresponsibly downplay its potential risks lmao starting obviously w/ the threat of psych and criminal institutionalisation which is structurally inherent to the patient-physician relationship but also the maybe more mundane risk of simply receiving treatment that is bad for you and counterproductive. i do not know where the idea came from that therapy is 'at worst useless'. at worst it fucks you up majorstyle

A therapist once told me that I was right to hate myself for not making enough money and I should fix that by enlisting in the military

It is apparently uncool on this website to not always like the word fag but if your heart is not in the right place keep it out your mouth. You are not "reclaiming" it if you singularly use it to refer to gay men you don't like.